Like many of you mommies, I read a lot of mommy blogs and am in a number of mommy groups on Facebook. They usually are so full of advice and support. But recently one of the groups has just gotten to be ridiculous (I won’t name names). It’s like the group feeds on drama. They find drama where there is none. Not every mom has the same experience as the other, we all know that. And some of us are worry warts (*cough cough*) and others complete optimists (even in the face of defeat). We should be building each other up! Instead of name calling and “That’s completely wrong, you should have done…”, why not say “I’ve been there. I swear it really does end”.
Especially for first time moms, the crap that goes on in that group is just mind-boggling. They tell you the first year is the hardest, and boy they aren’t kidding. We shouldn’t make it harder on ourselves. Yes, we have husbands, and friends, and families that we can turn to for support. But sometimes you just need that person going through the exact same thing you are to say “I know what you’re feeling”. I love the days where people are posting pictures of their little ones and praising each other on minor achievements (because some days that’s all you can do).
I recently decided to remove myself from that group. Because as much as I like the positive side of it, I just don’t care to deal with the negative. There are so many other places to find good support. I don’t need that crap in my life (my son dishes enough of it *snicker*).